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28-02-2022 - Sam Kiani - 0 comments
Authenticity vs Fitting in

Here's me being silly in Oslo!

Looking at this sculpture art work made me think...

DO YOU NOTICE WHEN YOU?RE TRIGGERED TO 'FIT IN??

We humans are tribal creatures and the fear of not being accepted is a powerful drive in all of us. But this isn?t straightforward.

Group dynamics pull out different aspects of our personality. We are complex creatures, we are not a one-trick-pony. Being ourself isn?t the same in every situation.

A powerful principle of NLP is that "it is s/he that has the most range who has the advantage in any given situation."

So what does it mean to show up authentically?

Knowing WHO YOU ARE
Being fully PRESENT
TRUST your uniqueness
Being BRAVE in your VULNERABILITY SPEAK YOUR TRUTH

Counter-intuitively we are accepted and feel that we belong when we are ourselves, not wearing a mask and being who we think we must be to fit in. Ironically trying to fit in means we feel less like we belong.

The world needs you - we all need your uniqueness. You being you gives everyone else permission to be themselves and together the mix of our unique characteristics makes for a better experience for everyone.

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