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Kicking the Criticism Habit
Do you remember I shared about the 4 major toxins that make relationships ill? For a relationship to be resilient and feel strong, we need to have a ratio of 5 positive interactions for every 1 toxic one.  In this series of posts, we are going to d
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The Key to a deeply fulfilling, happy relationship
Be kinder. That's it. Just be kinder. Let's not confuse this with niceness. By kindness I mean the qualities kindness has: • Generosity• Warm• Helpful• Clear• Having the intention of support I recently spent some time with an elderly couple that have been together a long time. They are renowned
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You're wiser than you think
This week, a fellow facilitator asked me to share with her any insights & resources I have around Leadership models for a conference we will co-facilitate. As I collated resources for her I found my own "Secrets of Successful Transformation" Leadership Model that I had drafted a few years ago, shelved and forgotten all about. It took me a while to place the work. Whose was this
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Resilience Part 2:  Lessons from Kilimanjaro
October proved to be an epic month for me.  I expected that climbing the beautiful and challenging Mt Kilimanjaro, the tallest freestanding mountain in the world, standing some 5865m or 19,242 ft would test my resilience, yet I've found myself tested in ways I didn't expect!  Through my experience, I've discovered important lessons on Resilience, what it really means to get
Sample Category - 20-10-2023 - Samantha Kiani - 0 comments
Impotent rage:  Dealing with unfairness, spiteful aggression, violence
I am now 50. I remember as a young child seeing Isreal Palestine Lebanon conflict on the TV and wondering what it was all about. Years later, I was working for an Equity trading company in NY and London when the planes hit the twin towers on 9/11 and killed many many many of our wider trading community. This fundamentally changed my life. From that point I sought to understand
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Ninja-Level Communication Lesson Series #1
Hello inspired.worlders I'm loving hearing from many of you how you're enjoying reading my articles and how the topics are resonating with you. Keep that feedback coming and if there's anything you want me to cover, do let me know. I'm here for you. This week we dig into the final quadrant of my model - communication - embarking on a journey into proven techniques are used in
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The Art of Personal Boundaries:  Building muscles that help
Welcome back to another edition of our blog! Today we explore the quadrant of our model that in itself holds the power to transform our lives and relationships for the better: Personal Boundaries. In today's 'always on' world, we often find ourselves pulled in countles
Sample Category - 08-09-2023 - Samantha Kiani - 0 comments
Needs do not make us needy.  How to negotiate your needs, without drama.
Today we deep dive into the needs quadrant of our model.  Negotiating our needs is a key skill - it is not a lose-win win-lose game that we so often find ourself playing when it's hard. Follow the default fear-based pathway of the human condi
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Power mastery: essentially how to become unf*ckwithable
We all experience times when we are in our power zone. We feel confident, powerful, at ease, full of possibility and capability. There are other times we feel the exact opposite - uneasy, out of our depth, doubting ourself. This article today is going to help you understand how relationship dynamics affect our ability to speak up and show up in the way we want to and share s
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Am I too sensitive? What even is gaslighting? Don’t be a dick.
The question ‘Am I too sensitive?' has come up often in my coaching practice, equally often in the context of ‘my boss' or romantic partner. It's a horrible feeling. We question ourselves. We feel that our feelings are inappropriate somehow. We feel a bit out of our depth or on an uneven keel. In a team workshop I ran recently, they complained several times of ‘cor
Sample Category - 03-08-2023 - Samantha Kiani - 0 comments
Why is change so damn hard?!
Humans struggle so much with change because we want to avoid uncertainty. Of course some of us are wired to seek out new and unknown experiences far more than others, but still ‘too much' uncertainty and we start to struggle. He may be controversial, but Tony Robbins made a great contribution to coaching and psychology when he took Maslow's hierarchy of needs and adapted it into
Sample Category - 13-07-2023 - - 0 comments a narcissist - why why why can't I make this relationship work???
There’s something important about human psychology – we tend to believe what people say regardless of what they do.  We focus on what is said, rather than focussing on what the patterns of behaviour are.    This week in both the world of work and in love, I’ve been reminded of this as I coac
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What the F&^% is LOVE?
I think that Hollywood, Bollywood and the likes of Disney have polluted our minds and distorted what real love, real friendship is.  What it is, how we experience it, what it looks, sounds and feels like. We think if we are strongly attracted, its love.  If a relationship isn’t working, it’s not love.  If it&rsqu
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When Relationships Get ill.... and how to detox your relationship
When it really matters, we typically don’t talk about our feelings and what we are longing for, we talk about what’s wrong.  Maybe we try to talk about how we feel but somehow it seems to cause a row.   We want for more, we feel let down, we may fe
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Feeling a bit meh, a bit lonely?  Intimacy, loneliness and finding our way back
Today we explore the 4 big interconnected territories of intimacy and loneliness, communication and our needs… Intimacy is that feeling of connection and trust that arises from feeling really seen, heard and understood; shared moments of emotional connection in time.  That yum yum yum heart smiley feeling that seems to fill us also with
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Feeling sorely unappreciated?  It might just be a plumbing problem….
Growing up, I was sure my Mum hated me.  The things she said to me seemed to a deliberate attempt to hurt me.  It seemed like no one understood me.  Seemed like I was the black sheep of the family, I just didn’t fit in.    I discovered later (after much therapy, inner work a
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Self Awareness and Conflict

Interesting to notice how we can unconciously create conflict - and how by elevating our awareness we can suffer so much less, have better relationships and enjoy the process of achievement so much more!

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Exploring Resilience - Part 1

What is Resilience?  

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Leadership: Busting The Myths of Perfection

I've been thinking deeply about what it means to be a great team mate, what it is to be a good leader.

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Being SEEN and Secrets of Self Confidence

This is the moment I met and had a great conversation with the great John Gray, author of many books including Beyond Mars and Venus, one of the best on relationships in todays world. I felt confident and comfortable in my own skin, but it hasn't always been this way.

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Authenticity vs Fitting in

Here's me being silly in Oslo ????????

Looking at this sculpture art work made me think...

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The Power of Self Awareness and slowing down in high powered Corporate Life

Below I share with you a story from my journey in Self-Awareness and Slowing Down, including a significant realisation from my life at the sharp end of corporate life that has massively helped me up my game and improve my performance. 



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Release Fear

Meditation to Release Fear

15 min guided meditation set to soft music to help you calm, soothe and release fear.

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