/RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMY

It’s kinda fun! You’ll probably cry. You’ll probably laugh. Weighty problems don’t have feel heavy in our sessions. Working with me helps you lighten the load. You’ll find yourself able to talk about the hardest things and feel heard and understood - by each other - instead of rowing.

Vulnerability isn’t easy and yet this is where the magic of connection and healing happen.

To support our work together we will contract and agree the behaviours we will hold ourselves to in our work and the kind of coaching ‘container’ that would best suit you.

Some like strong challenge and ‘bounce’, others prefer a much more gentle, supportive approach. Together we explore what approach best suits you.xt goes here

• Gottman Institute for Relationships e.g. the ‘Sound Relationship House’

  • Explore the foundations of truly great relationship

  • Understand your ‘love’ and ‘argument’ languages

  • Explore interpersonal power dynamics

  • Unlock better patterns of communication and connection to bust you out of old argument patterns

• Relationship Systems Coaching ‘magic’ from ORSC

  • Break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and friendship

  • Remember why you first came together and dream a new dream together

• A very helpful Buddhist definition of Love

  • Clue: (hint: see blog) It’s not the odd mix of attachment + hormones that Hollywood seems to have tricked us into believing

• Tantra [a spiritual perspective known as the path of awakening through relationship]

  • Learn how to get out of your head and back into balance with your body

  • Lean into sensation and sensory pleasure

  • Rebalance Masculine & Feminine qualities within yourselves and as a couple

  • If you seek it, to rekindle passion and transcendence in physical intimacy

Privacy is everything so no names - you’l have to trust me these are real:

Couples whose arguments were becoming more and more heated, in a few cases violent, to find a much more constructive way to work through their differences.  To understand their own needs and be able to talk about what matters most without causing an argument, or a physical fight.

Couples in which one or both partners have ‘cheated’ but who wanted their relationship to work.  I helped them understand the kind of disconnection that leads to affairs, their specific points of disconnection and helped them to connect again, feel truly seen, heard and understood by each other. Able to trust again and feeling more deeply, passionately connected than before the affair.

Work through ‘conscious uncoupling’ so that all parties could remain friendly and be able to co-parent in a mutual way that suited them all.  This deep work helped set each person individually free from their old unconscious relationship patterns and helped them grow personally and together in a way that has transformed their lives for the better, beyond the pain of loss.
Couples in long term relationships who have lost their way, find themselves again and rekindle passion and intimacy and build a stronger, purposeful relationship in which they both feel truly supported and happy.

I am bias of course yet I do my best to work without judgement and blame. I am bias FOR healthy relationship and what is healthy? Whatever is a healthy co-creation for you.

There are many models for relationship not just couples, all with their strengths and vulnerabilities. I feel there is not one right way, just what is right for you.

I am also aware of and recognise the differences between the needs and challenges of Men/Masculine and Women/Feminine. I have witnessed violence and ‘toxic’ behaviour in equal measure and as a result I do not discriminate.

We all can behave badly when we are at our limits and the situation exceeds our ability to emotionally self manage or communicate constructively.

I’m so happy you’re here. First things first, book a free call to meet me, check our chemistry, and talk through your situation and what you’d like to achieve with the support of Couples Therapy.